The mistakes women make with dating aren't talked about often enough. We always talk about the mistakes men make, but what can women do better?
Overanalyzing everything that he does
Men aren't usually that complicated. They often say what they mean. If you treat him well and create an environment where he feels comfortable opening up to you with honesty. Then you'll know what he's thinking and where he stands on things. Our reactions to the news from him that we may not like will often affect how often he will be willing to open up to us. If he knows that we will genuinely try to understand his point of view and avoid harsh criticism, he will be more likely to open up.
Also, NEVER use it against him.
Not supporting his passions & Taking away his peace
Men want peace! Men want to be loved for who they are and not what they can provide. You shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you can't respect, Love, and support. His hobbies should be a part of that.
Expecting him to read your mind
How is anyone supposed to do that!? He wants to make you happy. Make it easy. Are you just like every other woman? No? Then how is he supposed to "just know." Tell him what you like, And hear what he wants and likes, too!
Trying to change things about him.
You're supposed to be a partner. Not his boss, Mother, Etc. You should cheer him on and support him. And encourage him. But do not force him to change into what you are looking for. You may have a lot in common, but he is still his own person. You should encourage the goals HE WANTS to accomplish. Not the ones you want him to. This isn't build a bear. If you can't love and respect him for who he is, Why are you with him?
Always bringing up past issues that were resolved.
He fixed it; now what? Leave it alone. Bringing it up constantly when he did his best to fix the issue. Basically, it is continued punishment. The next time he needs to fix something, He will be less motivated to do so.
Finding reasons to get mad at him.
In a lot of relationships, a man will do things right the majority of the time. But our focus is sometimes on the small sliver of things he's doing wrong. We get upset, Nag him, and make him feel horrible about it overall. Instead of bringing up the real issue that is making us upset, we find a million other things to get mad at him for. This is overall discouraging and can gradually eat away at your relationship.
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Well said. If only folks would listen to your advice.
Thank you :)