I appreciate you continuing to finish this comment, in regards to what you'd written on the other one...
Personally, I'd say DO IT.
Sounds as though you had the urge, but held back due to overthinking.
Following through on the impulse would jave discharged it rather than backing up into confusion - and if it had any impact at all, it might have been a small warm ray of sunshine that nurtured something within them. Mighta been a shitty missed opportunity, even if tiny. Or mighta not amounted to much of anything at all, but at least would't be dwelling on the indecision...
just one perspective.
Thanks,
I actually did hit post.
It wasn't until after the replies went dead that I started to question it.
I'm used to writing 5 or 6 versions of something so I can vent for a while before I send something even resembling a diplomatic message and this was out of the ordinary, and a little uncomfortable.
Baby steps.