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Hi steemians! After a long absence I have returned to share more content with you, on this occasion i will perform as usual a little research about toxic people that we all know and that some can identify quickly to rule them of our lives and others are still looking for ways to get rid of them, those people who do nothing more than criticize and ignore our efforts to do things right, believe in a unique truth and believe also to own it. For all those people who still can not identify them this publication is for you, for those who have the ability to identify them this information will also be useful.

What is a Toxic Person?

Main Characteristics of a Toxic person.

That person is the only one that matters.

These people are the typical "just me, myself and i" when it comes to the topic of conversation that person will always prioritize their topics, as well as try to take over the conversation and when you try to tell your things try to pass quickly from them because it is those of him / her that have to be treated and of first instance.

They generate and transmit their negative emotions constantly.

These people carry with them an aura of negativity, they don't see the packaging half full, or in half they always see it half empty, they tend to bother when confronted they explode with anger or becoming victims (which is a classic).

They always blame the rest of their mistakes and bad decisions.

No matter that you have had nothing to do in the decision or action they will always find the way to get rid of the guilt by throwing it to another, because they never are, always are the conditions, the climate, the humor, the government experts in excuses , but not in solving.

They envy to the maximum.

They are not happy for the success of others, on the contrary the more success you have the worse for them. Always (for them) their jobs will be better, no matter what you do in any area they according to your opinion are superior, even if it proves the opposite. As well as they will think that the great majority of your achievements no matter the effort you have put are due to chance.

Undisputed liars.

They have great capacity to sneak those little (sometimes big) lies that we usually believe, since in theory we trust them. Little by little we are believing that kingdom of lies that build us and we consolidate with excess of confidence. Usually when they are discovered these people try to disguise the lies or subtract them "everyone lies" "is'nt so much" "a pious lie" and if we fall sooner or later we will end up being great liars too, of course all this depends on the personality of the person.

Don't create new things.

Create new things? No, thank you, I'm very comfortable here. Usually they are the type of people who reject new products, technologies and proposals without even thinking about it, without analyzing the advantages and disadvantages

Are these people really so bad? How can we not realize?

These people seem to be the devil in person once they have seen the list, but in everyday life they do not seem so bad to the naked eye, we think that like anybody only has a bad day (almost every day) and we try to understand them, put us in their Some actions are perhaps justified and we just let it happen, little by little. So much so that sometimes we get used to tolerate bad comments, complaints, to assume faults that are not ours.

From here also toxic relationships start, with people who are unable to separate even if the relationship only hurts them, causes them sadness and depression. Some because they think they think that person "does it for a reason" "to teach us" "isn't so much" "just kidding" but from the joke to being a toxic person there is always a huge difference it is up to us when to stop these people and understand once and for all that we do not do well.

I'm the toxic?

Without wanting as any human being subject to their emotions and experiences we who so much criticize such people without wanting we can incur the same faults, as i mentioned previously we become unconscious people toxic. That is why it is important to analyze ourselves from time to time before judging and criticizing others. What if instead of shouting to that fellow because he did it badly we understand that he did not want to do it wrong? What if we support rather than criticize? What if we know before we judge? It's those little attitudes that make us better people and a group of good people builds a better society.

The quest for the solution is the mission.

Yes, in order to find the solution to a problem you have to understand why it happened and then proceed to the immediate search for a solution, but this in theory sounds very simple is more complicated when we have to deal with the stress, the emotions and other factors that it is always important to take at least 1 minute to think to breathe and find the solution to the problem. Everyone in our lives will always have problems, but it is up to us whether to let that problem consume us or be just another bump in our lives.

Understand and control your emotions.

It seems simple, just calm down so you do not do nonsense. Easy peasy, right? Well the truth is that apparently it isn't so, surely the great majority know that young person who does nonsense and is carried away by their emotions, right? But, there are also adults who do the same, precisely because maturity is not necessarily linked to our age. When we face toxic people who just want to get us out of our squares, we must understand our emotions. As we say in Venezuela "a hot head does not solve anything", we must think about cold.

But it is not only the negative emotions that we have to take care of, but also the positive ones . What am I going to do with this? The vast majority understand that negative emotions have to be paused and taken calmly, but emotions such as joy, joy, love must also be controlled we can not promise permanent things based on temporary emotions. We will have to stick to disappointment that will lead, yes it is good to dream, it is good to pose great goals, but always thinking about cold.

How to get rid of a toxic person?

It is said there that the more intelligent the person is, the smaller the amount of friends he has, but it is in this case that toxic people do not necessarily have to be our friends. What do I mean? Simple, toxic people can sneak into our lives as co-workers, study, neighbors and unfortunately family as well.

Set limits.

A good wall to avoid these people is to set limits to barely see that things are not liking. Sometimes the simplest solution is simply to communicate to them in an educated way that we do not like their attitude and that we want to stop taking attributions that we are not giving, avoiding overconfidence. Perfect for toxic workmates, they keep only a strictly working relationship.

Don't forget.

One thing is resentment and another is justice, we can not learn from mistakes if we do not remember what they are, in this case who. Remember, eye for an eye and we will all be blind, you should not pay with the same currency but be careful with the people to whom they are given confidence.

Always stay on your own.

Focus on your work, your relationships in your things always accepting constructive criticism and discarding criticisms that are totally empty and without fundamentals. We can not isolate ourselves, but we can choose carefully who we teach our work and ask for opinion.

Reflection and request for an opinion.

These people existed, exist and will always exist, are part of our life, our society and our world. In fact we learn from them but we must understand when it is enough, when to move away. As always, I thank all the people who have reached this point of the publication, I did it with much affection for all of you, everything presented in this publication is merely my personal opinion isn't based on any scientific study, sociological study or similar, only experiences of life. I would like to know Would you consider that in your life there are a lot of toxic people? Do you get along with these people?

Thanks for your attention

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