My Farm/Cottage Story: Why & Starting Point

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This story started last spring, somewhere at the beginning of May, when my younger son came home for a couple of weeks, and I finally decided to make my move.

It's been almost 27 years since my dad passed away, and when I inherited a piece of land with a small cottage from him in the northern continental part of the country.

He gave me the whole property while he was still alive, and I regularly took care of it and used it. Unfortunately, this donation was not made in writing. At that time, I really didn't care about it, and even less could predict or expect that a sudden, short, but severe illness would take him away in less than two months.

And, of course, after his death, some greedy relatives who didn't care about my dad at all while he was alive suddenly felt entitled to ask for their hereditary share.

As usually happens in life, my father's death occurred at one of the most difficult times in my life when I didn't have the energy or even less financial strength to go through a long and exhausting legal battle, and they took what they could.

So, since I am not the only heir, for all these 26 long years, I have been waiting for the other two co-owners to show some interest and initiative about that property. But they didn't!

In their greedy miscalculation, they thought they had gained enormous wealth. However, they did not because the property's market price was and still is very low. So, all they did was break into the house (as they had never been in possession and never had the keys), take what they deemed valuable, devastate it, and leave the whole property abandoned.

Although the property doesn't have some significant market value, it has a considerable emotional value for me. At first, it has been in the family for ages. My father inherited it from his mother, and she inherited it from her parents, and so on. Secondly, and maybe even more important to me, my children have fond memories from their childhood when they spent time on the farm with my father, their grandfather, who led them through the surrounding hills, through the forest, taught them how to make a fire, chop wood, and much more.

Even apart from the beautiful nature of the location and the estate's surroundings, these two things would be my best answer to the question: Why?!

However, one co-owner died in the meantime, and its heirs are not interested in keeping the property. The other co-owner doesn't live in the country and hasn't visited it since 2009, when he left his last devastating touch on the property.

So, last spring, I finally decided to buy out the remaining parts of the estate this way or another, and while waiting for how all of these would roll out to start at least some crucial savings from the total ruin of the estate.

When we arrived there in May last year, it wasn't easy to see what the estate had become. The vegetation had turned into a small jungle, the house's doors were broken, and the whole house was open. There was a ton of trash and broken things in the house.

The roof was full of broken tiles from fallen trees, but luckily, it wasn't leaking. However, one tree was leaning dangerously against the house and threatening to collapse a good part of the remaining healthy roof.

Due to years of lack of maintenance and the proximity to the forest, moisture seeped into the house, seeping out of every pore, and the air was hard to breathe.

We also found out that some neighbors took the liberty (as nobody was there for ages) of expanding onto the property along the edges and even built a road down the very middle of it.

That was our starting point!
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03/01/2025
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Wow! It is so hard to understand the greed of people! My condolences on the passing of your father. I am sorry that you had and are having to go through this. Hopefully, you can get the neighbor to fix the road issue. It isn't theirs and generally, most law officials would agree. I don't know what it's like for that sort of thing in your country, but am hoping it's beneficial to you.

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Thank you very much for your kind words!
We already solved the issues of expanding onto the property along the edges. Regarding the road issue, in the end, we decided to take a different approach - a diplomatic and/or reciprocally compensating one. In other words, leaving the road as it currently is, we are allowing one of our neighbors an additional access way to their property through our estate while, at the same time, we are also getting an additional access way to our property through their estate. Still, we were stunned that they did it just like that without asking anyone anything.

However, they all know now that they can't do things like that just like that. They are a bit ashamed and somewhat thankful that we didn't make a big drama out of that all, although we clearly stated our minds.
All in all, things are slowly getting better and better, and we decided to move on. After all, if we choose to use the part of the land where the road is now differently at any point in time, we can place the fence there and close it.
From the legal perspective, we have all the rights to do something like that or even to ask for the road to be removed and this portion of the land restored to its original state. But, as I said, we are not planning to do something like that. Instead, we took it as a new option and opportunity rather than an obstacle and issue.

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Even though they were wrong in what they did, diplomacy is probably the best approach. Thank you for sharing the details; I appreciate it.

Take care and have an awesome week ahead!! !LADY🤗💜

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