In general I have to agree with you that there is no rush. My case was a bit different however, because though I was engaged before pregnancy I was pregnant at the alter lol. We were extremely careful all throughout dating, but once the decision was made to spend forever together I have to admit we got careless- but Howie already had two boys so waiting didn't really make sense for us, I didn't want the generational gap to be too big.
I hope you get your girl then boy, when the time is right :)
I've only started my true catchup just now so I have quite a long way to go with Unproven. I might not be able to comment on all of the chapters I've missed because I'll be blitzing through them, but I'll read each and every character I've missed.
The age gap feels just right between Zoe and the older boys doesn't it. They won't be mistakened as father-daughter so that's good. Intentional sloppiness. I don't know if Li and I will get to that point, but we've been extremely carefull haha!
Girl then boy... Girl then boy...
Girl and boy? Gotcha. One pair of magical twins coming up :D
Twins? Wait, no! Years apart! Years apart!!
And once again it's lucky that everyone else in the house is just used to be bursting into random maniacal laughter XD