What an awesome story! Thanks for sharing!
Although I define "spirituality" different (and having nothing to do with substance induced states, that will naturally come and go) - but every path is different and it seems as if this path was the right one for you! Also it´s a good thing, that your first wife left you! 😉
A friend of mine met his wife through pickup manipulation tricks and has now the trouble to keep up the mask he build at the beginning - basically living the life of the persona he made up instead of his own true being, like an actor... Horrible - so lucky you! 😀