Self-Acceptance: The Ultimate Blasphemy

In order to save yourself, you must commit the ultimate blasphemy.
That blasphemy is self-acceptance.
Self-acceptance is the cardinal sin of this world.
It flies in the face of all religion, all authoritarianism, and all of the brainwash and indoctrination
you have been fed since infancy.

No matter how much money you have, no matter your accolades and accomplishments,
if you do not accept yourself, you have nothing. Zero.
Why do I say "blasphemy"?

From the moment you are born, people begin telling you "you are not good enough."
As human beings we already understand our dependence on our parents at that point.
We accept this as a natural fact of existence.
We know we need our mothers to breastfeed. We need our parents to shelter us.
We need them to feed us. Clothe us.
This is natural and good. It is like a bear and her cubs.
Nature knows we are dependent. Almost totally dependent at that point.
Anything beyond this, however--any message that conveys "you cannot trust yourself"--is cancer.

For example, here are some messages that many of you probably received and believed as children:

YOU MUST TRUST "GOD"--NOT YOURSELF.

YOU MUST OBEY YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER WITHOUT QUESTION. TO QUESTION THEM IS WRONG.

YOU MUST OBEY POLICE, GOVERNMENT, TEACHERS, ETC., WITHOUT QUESTION, BECAUSE THEY ARE YOUR ELDERS AND THEY ARE AUTHORITY.

DO NOT JUDGE THINGS ACCORDING TO YOUR OWN MIND AND RATIONAL STANDARDS.

DO NOT EXERCISE YOUR OWN FACULTIES OF REASON AND LOGIC.

DO NOT EXERCISE YOUR CAPACITY FOR EMPATHY AND COMPASSION UNLESS PERMISSION IS GIVEN TO EXERCISE THESE ON AN "APPROPRIATE" RECIPIENT.

I have been thinking about this feeling of inferiority recently,
that I experience myself and see in so many others.
It doesn't matter how much money you have, or about your accomplishments.
It doesn't matter if you are on the top of all those areas.
If you don't have unconditional self-acceptance--unconditional positive regard for yourself--
you can't successfully make it thorough this life. You won't. And you can't fake it.

There are many of us who didn't get that positive mirror from our parents.
As children we look to our parents with the questions "How am I?" and "What type of person am I?"
We look to our parents and we see that message, that response, in our parents' eyes.

But now, here we are. We can't blame our feelings on anyone else now.
Our feelings and our lives are our responsibility now.
Say you've got this hole inside yourself. What do you do now?

I realized today that love--self-acceptance (unconditionally loving yourself)--is the ultimate blasphemy in this world.
In this modern society.
It is treated as if it were tantamount to saying "I am God." And indeed, that is what it is.

"Who are you to say that you are the son of God!?!?! Get up on that cross!"

We are taught to seek our validation, eternally and always, from the outside.
From the moment you are born, they start to indoctrinate you.
They teach you to seek your validation from the outside.
But, look at happy children. They love themselves very much, in an almost unconscious way.
We would never call that happy-go-lucky attitude that children have "arrogance."
But they're really into themselves, aren't they?
And we're supposed to be!
You are supposed to be "into yourself!"

Religion tells you, and the world and government and police tell you not to be.
They say you are some dirty, evil person, born with "original sin."
Tell someone they are "dirty" and "bad" all their life, and see how they act.
See how they turn out.
Who acts out negatively? People that are really happy and like themselves, or people that hate themselves?
Let some one grow up knowing they are good, and that when they make a mistake, they can fix it.
See how they turn out.

Society is based on a lie.
The lie that "most people are bad and want to hurt each other."
The majority of individuals--look around--are good.
There are some with brain damage. There are sociopaths.
For the most part, though, the reason those around you are not raping and killing you
is not because they are afraid of police catching them.
If that is the only reason people are good to each other....well. Then we are certainly doomed.
But it is not so.

Religion tells you you are born evil. You are not. You are born yourself.

Authority tells you you cannot trust yourself. You can. If not you, who can you trust?
If you choose a god or a hero outside of yourself, it's still you, trusting yourself and your own judgement that that god or hero is "good." It's still you doing the trusting.

Friends, relatives, church leaders and teachers will give us all kinds of advice, but almost never point us back to the true source of knowledge and learning, which is found within.

When you are told not to trust yourself, this creates an internal crisis, for adults and children alike.
Our brains and minds keep us alive. My brain signals me, letting me know when something is painful and I should avoid it. It gets me to work without crashing into other cars. It tells me when I need to eat. It has shown me that things fall, and that if I walk off a ledge, I will fall as well.
Our bodies are built as self-sufficient, self-sustaining microcosms.
When we are told to NOT TRUST THE VERY THING THAT'S KEEPING US ALIVE,
our mind/subconscious/being goes into a profound existential panic.
Oh my god! This guy is about to go suicidal on us! He is trusting some bullshit other than
his built in survival system as the primary system!

We are programmed to be gods independent of all else and everyone else.
Interdependent, but independent.

Carl Jung spoke of embracing one's darker side and integrating it fully.
Not a tolerance, but a full, uninhibited acceptance of the darkness in oneself.
Not a license to defraud, rape, harm, kill, or steal from others,
but a full acceptance of these propensities--or at least the shadows thereof--
sometimes residing within us as human beings.

Judge not, and be ye not judged.

Nobody knows unconditional love's real meaning.
We talk about unconditional love and positive regard and self-acceptance.
My love for my son.
Even if my son grew up to be a mass serial killer, I would love him.
I would not condone what he did.
I would understand their are consequences for such acts.

Nobody knows its real meaning.
Self-acceptance (unconditional love) is an absolute, blasphemous, scandalizing notion to this world.
To those in the seats of power in this world, and to society at large.
It flies in the face of all religious teaching and authoritarian indoctrination
and once we accept ALL parts of ourselves AS IS, IN THIS MOMENT,

then you get this....PHFOOOM! Flash of light.
An instantaneous chain reaction like black powder meeting a spark. Light.
And then here we are.
At that moment, of full acceptance of yourself, guess what?
Those negative propensities? PFFOOM! Gone. In light.

Why? I don't know. It's a mystery.

Here we are. I am God on this planet, and so are you.