Is there even a need to invent yourself or find yourself? Why not just be yourself. But I guess you may not be able to be your self because of the conditioning you have had by your past which has formed layers upon layers in you that ends up obscuring who you are so that who you are does not show forth. And what do you do? You start looking for yourself. In looking for yourself you make another mistake because you do not really go inwards but look for yourself in external things - clothes, phones, men, women, looks, houses, and the likes. It is impossible for you to find yourself in external things and as a result of this you end up losing yourself to external things. So the clothe that gave you pleasure the day you bought it now gives you less pleasure or even brings displeasure.
Stop looking for yourself. Do not try to be this or that. Just be.