my parents have had very little, if any resolution in their relationship, things would always escalate and escalate until someone became exhausted and retreated. This was the foundations on which I build my relationships upon, where very aggressive arguments were a natural part of a relationship and where resolution did not exist.

Me too..

What I really struggle with now, is how we interact with one another, because I know my girls are soaking that all up. They hear everything. especially when we argue.

I got the same problem too. I wish I can just show him the video on NVC and let him soak it up. I don't like it when we only seems to communicate without any raise on volume when he is intoxicated. He tend to forget everything we talk after that which is just a waste. Without alcohol, the intense energy of always want to be right from him is so high. Still in the loop too as you, and I'm wondering when will this cycle break, as I don't want my children to continue the same pattern in their future relationship..