When Marriage Goes Sour : Saving Yourself From a Bad Marriage.

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Have you ever been in love? I believe you can touch the skies if that what's it takes. Love could be so sweet when it's with the right Partner.

I bet even the devil would love to try. This is because it can be so sweet and fantastic.

How about if it's with the wrong person?

I have taught of this for a long time. Especially because I see alot of bleeding marriages. I have friends who are urging me to get married but most importantly, I don't want to get married with the wrong person, perhaps am also done being in a bad relationship.

To be in a relationship or marriage with the wrong person stinks, infact marriage stinks, it's worse there.

I will tell you about my neighbor who always wakes me in the morning with quarels, and fights with wife and children. Yesterday was worse. He locked up the place and said the wife wouldn't come in.

They made me look at marriages with disdain. However there are people and marriages I see and am grateful for such gifts of love.

Now Let's Talk About How And Why a Marriage Could go Sour

I went to conduct a small research between few steemians, here is what other steemians think.

"for example if husband cheat his partners for time to time, wife hurts and heart getting to stone and love gone."@sweetcha thinks that it happens because love fades away little by little. She went on to say

Hmm, what a great thought.

I also had @momogrow, and here is what she thinks.

"It started out on the basis of true love and mutual respect if it’s still goes sour then it’s because something broke. Breakdown of respect, falling out of love and not willing to re-discover it. most times it’s lack of communication. Sometimes couple stops having fun together. The focus becomes the kids. So there are a lot of factors"

She went forward to talk about such factors, she listed these factors such as lack of communication and committing adultery.

"Marriages can only go sour when God is left out of the equation."
This is quite true.@nueeco7 thinks religiously, he says,

All of my my respondents are correct.

Some of the reasons why marriages can go sour includes, infidelity, lack of communication, lack of respect, to mention but a few.

What can you do if You are in A bad marriage?

For those in a bad marriage, there are few things we can do. However there are only two options it's either you stay or leave.

When you should leave.

Marriages are ordained by God, therefore, the originator of marriage which is Jehovah gave one valid reason why marriages should break. This is when adultery has being committed. The wronged partner has legal rights to break the marriage legally(Divorce), should he or she be sure that the partner has really committed the act.

Secondly, when the life of a partner is under threat by his or her partner
Don't wait to be told to leave, please for your sake and your life you can separate from your partner, this does not mean you're divorced. This action is to save your life.

If You Choose to Stay

Some married people would choose to manage a bad marriage rather than go away especially in Africa where it is hard to remarry. If you figured out you are in a bad marriage what can you do?

1. Seek The Third Cord of Marriage : Marriages is a three cord bond. But most marriages often go sour because one cord is missing. This is God the originator marriage. Seek his face always. If you have left him out, go to him, pray, read his words on marriage, invite him in and let him be found by you.

2. Become More Loving: Find out little ways and little things to do to love your partner. Appreciate them even when it is not needed, stand by them, encourage them, don't hold out love making, try new things too be more romantic.
   
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3.Go Back In Time: Don't forget something brought you both together before it got sour. Therefore, if it's worth it you should make you happy. So you could arrange to visit where you first met, where you both had your honey moon, engaged or did something special.

1. Refrain From Abusive speech: The bible states that "An answer when mild turns away rage" No matter what never use harsh words, please try as much to use sweet words and be tactful when argument arise. Never argue to win, you will never win.

2. Be patient and Matured: To stay in a marriage getting sour will take patience and maturity to get it back up. So please think through your thoughts before you talk and act. This Will help you to stay in the marriage.

6.Be More Understanding and Communicating.

You need to understand your partners fault and failings, you're here to assist each other, so don't use them against them, just communicate often and strengthen your bonds.

Conclusion
Marriage can be exciting but it comes with challenges, make your marriage worth it by seeing your challenge as part of the processes of building a great marriage.

If your marriage is growing sour, please take divorce as the last option, try all you can to save it before you think of breaking it.

Try not to always want people to be in your shoes, learn how to put yourself in other people's shoes. Above all never stop loving each other, it is a perfect bond of union that can keep your marriage strong.

Disclaimer

This is not professional advice but the content here portrays the personal opinion of the writer. User desecration is advised.

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