Hello fellow steemians. I was introduced to steemit by @mark52. I hope to add value to this great community of friends.
I will like to share a few golden secrets that keeps married couples together.
Marriage is a Beautiful union between two lovely people.
These golden secrets are meant for those that are married and those who are planning to get married.
UNDERSTAND AND HANDLE YOUR WEAKNESSES
Every rose flower has its own thorn. Both couples need to understand the flaws of each other. If you focus too much on your spouse's weakness, you can't get the best out of his/her strength. Your wife may be lazy but she could also be loyal. Build on each other's strengths and agree on how to improve on the weaknesses.
DON'T DIG TOO MUCH INTO THE DARK HISTORY
No one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging too deep into one's past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. try to forgive and forget. The past can't be changed. So Focus on the present and the future! If you must dig then do that with the intention of understanding her/him.
Not for the purpose of tormenting her/him with issues gone by.
FACE UPCOMING CHALLENGES
Marriage is not a bed of roses.
Marriage is not always going to be all smiles.
Every successful marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. Some couples may be having challenges of not being able to bear children. Others may be battling a particular terminal illness. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of need. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!
EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT'S UNIQUE LEVELS OF SUCCESS
Don't compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true. You may be struggling with lean finances while another wealthy couple is out there battling to have children. We are all blessed in different ways. Appreciate what you have and things will improve.
TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR ON MANY DISTRACTIONS:
When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Wife battery, Laziness, Divorce tenencies etc. Be ready to fight distractions in order to maintain your marriage zone.
THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE
There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with Gear oil, gear box, back hassles and If this parts are not properly maintained, the car will brake down somewhere along the road and exposing the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. - Many of us are careless about our marriage... Are you? If you are, pls pay attention to your marriage.
MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY
Aside from paying the bride price or organizing a beffiting wedding, marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdraw later. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing. The wife should learn to be a a good cook. The husband should also Learn to provide her with money for groceries. Both of you should Invest part of your income for the children's education.
TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK
You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she's slim but she becomes 100% fatter after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.
MARRIAGE IS NOT JUST A CONTRACT:
Marriage needs total commitment. Love is the binding force that makes a couple stick together.
Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Find solutions to your problem. Marriage counselling is a good step towards reconciliation.
Dont venture into marriage with the intention of becoming wealthy through alimony playments.
MARRIAGE IS COMPANIONSHIP:
Learn to do things together with your spouse. One is not a slave to the other. Assist your wife with the simple chores at home. Watch football together. Talk to her/him about the day at office. Discuss many things together. Don't disrespect her/him in front of the children. Pray together and work as a team.
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I wish all steemians a happy blissful life!!!
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