Asking myself about my identity, am I just confused? My life is full of questions, looking for answers. Is this who I really am? Or do I just want to belong in this world?
In my 19 years of existence, 3 years of questioning if I am straight or not. Hiding my true identity, scared of what people may say about me. Identity crisis is what I felt, wondering if I can find a way out of this. Do I even know about myself? I like both girls and boys. It turns out, I might be a member of the LGBTQIA+ Community. Am I even ready to accept it? After realizing my gender identity, I guess I am a bisexual. At first, I was scared to admit it to myself but as days went by, it became normal to me. Loving the same gender as you are is not way more different by man and woman. It is just the same but the gender is the only difference.
Discovering myself makes me wonder if it’s okay to be like this or not. Being part of the said community faces a lot of challenges in life. Discrimination is one of the big challenges we face. I once discriminated against my classmate just because I didn't want my friend to be with her. I’ve realized how harsh I am to her. After that incident, it doesn’t make you look bad to like someone the same gender as you. The bad thing is the eyes of the people. Of course, we are living in a judgemental world.
Now, you’ve reached this part where I will share to you the story on how I found out about my sexual orientation. Honestly,it was very confusing because I already started to admire girls when I was still in my 7th grade. I thought it was just normal to admire a girl and then in 9th grade, I had a crush on a girl again but I was in my denial stage at that time. When the pandemic started, I admired another girl. She was actually the girl who let me know about my sexual orientation. Knowing that I am a bisexual, it shocked me and my parents. At first, my parents didn’t accept me but as days passed by, they just accepted me because I am happy with it.
After years of hiding from others, I finally came out last year, 2023. It was very fulfilling and happy because I don’t need to hide myself anymore and I can be myself. Even if it took me a lot of time to come out, it let me understand myself more. Now that I am out, I am proud to say that I have a girlfriend and I am happy with her.
A reminder to everyone the same as me, just take your time and you don't need to come out right away. No need to pressure yourself as long as you are ready, then go for it. Continue to be yourselves! Lots of love!
Opinyon ko po lamang at hindi ako expert. Ganito po ang indentity crisis and mga tao nakapaligid sa atin sa loob ng circle ang siyang magdedesisyon kung ano ang magiging ugali at kapalaran natin. Kapag ikaw ay nagbago unti unti mauubos ang mga tao sa loob ng circle at papasok ang mga nasa labas ng circle. Ang pagbabago mo at pagsasabi ng totoo para sa sarili mo ay mahirap tangapin ng mga taong tinatwag mong true (fake) friends.
Hindi man kita kilala pero proud ako sayo! Mabuhay ka at salamat sa article mo maraming tao ang makakuha ng aral dito.
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thank you po sa opinyon mo. May natutunan din ako sa sinabi mo.
thanks
I am proud that you are also proud of your identity. This blog can serve as an inspiration to those individuals who aren't ready to express their true colors. There's nothing wrong with you and don't mind the opinions or discrimination of others, that's their opinion and not yours. Continue to express yourself, we are here to support you. Lovelots!🤍🫶
thank you for this encouragement. Truly, I will continue to inspire other through my blogs.🫶🏻
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People will always have something to say. They may like or dislike, love or hate, accept or reject you for who and what you are but as long as you love yourself, you will always find happiness. All the best 🤩
thank you!
Hi @mikyllaandrea, I can feel your confusion in dealing with such an identity crisis; my sister also faced it, and I know how hard it is; you need to embrace the changes and not be afraid to open up to your parents. It is important to have a strong support system. laban lang :)
thank you so much for this encouragement. My parents already know and they support me for who I am. They also met my girlfriend already hehe. Laban lng always!🫶🏻
I just admire how brave you are to share this here. I just wanna say that I'm proud that you're able to embrace who you are. There's nothing wrong with your gender identity; it's very normal. As you say, we're living in a judgmental world. Yes, that's absolutely right, but just remember there is nothing wrong with what you feel and who you are. What's wrong are those judgmental people, not you. You said it right, you have to love yourself even more. 🫶❤️🩹
thank you for this encouragement. We just live our life to the fullest!
Whatever your preferences Ma'am @mikyllaandrea just follow your heart ♥️
thank you!
Wow, what an inspiring story and your parents are very supportive of your happiness! Happy for you!
thank you so much!
I don't have the right to judge you Miss @mikyllaandrea. I have also a cousin who is a lesbian. I guess what you are feeling right now is just normal. Normal because somebody is doing it? As long as you do not sin it's okay if that's make you feel your helpful in the community. However, if we tackle in the aspects of our Christian duty, the world was made by male and female only. Don't get me wrong. I respect your choice. I respect you as a person too.
I am an active server of God but I don't limit myself to what the bible said, I also respect your opinion.
That's great Miss! :) It's a great avenue for us to really search ourselves deeper and dig deeper of what we believe in! Thanks for sharing your story by the way. It's hard but you are brave!
You are so brave, coming out is really hard especially you have a lot of uncertainties and even those what ifs. Even accepting yourself is not that easy too. Kaya proud kami sayo for making that decision, at least wala nang taguan, you can be whoever you want and I'm sure that's giving you more peace of mind rn.
thank you po sa encouragement!