Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
I was always a girl who tried to please others, with a soft, calm manner, somewhat shy, not very talkative, a condescending smile, and trying to fit into the circles where I had to socialize...pressing myself all the time to be accepted and loved by the people.
I suppose it was a very normal phase of immaturity at that age, and with some empty (quite a few) within my childish and dreamy personality, lost in a brain lagoon named: How to make people like you
I was lucky after all, but I learned to shape my character and my expressions when I understood that I do not have to pretend to be something I am not to be accepted and honored by a group of people that are not part of my intimate self, sensitive, quiet, loving, angry self, and treacherous.
Human nature is so egotistical and pernicious.
This is my delivery for the weekend commitment that our host Galenkp is preparing for us, responding to the topic:
If you met a new person today, do you think they would like your personality? Explain why and why not, and what aspects of your personality you would change to be more liked, if you could. Use your own photos.
Yes, in life nothing stops, and I continually meet and interact with new and not so new people, but I must confess that although I still have traits of good nature, innocence and nobility, I am no longer usually as meek as before...😅
My personality with new people.
I am generally a sociable person, willing to be pleasant but without many words, perhaps something similar to a light mixture of education and courtesy driven by the time I am willing to dedicate to someone according to the interest they generate in us, or to ideas that let's have a common...
Recalling the last people who have had the tremendous honor of knowing me...😂...I must admit that some find my personality very good and for others, nothing about it is interesting...🤷🏼♀️
The conversation.
Maybe the fact that I am not a very good conversationalist at the beginning, people think that I can be boring... and that could sometimes frustrate me a little because in certain media it is important to socialize to guarantee respectful alliances, but despite that, I know that on each occasion I will only say what is fair and necessary instead of wasting time chattering nonsense, even if some like it and others don't...
Not all talkative people tend to be charismatic and friendly.
So this may not be very popular with someone you just met who loves to talk for hours.
I usually seem very serious.
Another of my personality traits is appearing more serious than I really am, so for someone who just knows me my face might seem a little intimidating from the beginning.
I must admit that it has been an attitude that has been transforming my image for a few years. I remember that I used to smile a lot and now I surprise myself by scolding myself for keeping my jaws too tight and my lips muting for too long.
Faces harden over time and mine has not been immune to this, however, showing a relaxed smile on my face will only depend on the selective chemistry between the new person and me.
Bad character?
On certain occasions they accuse me of having a very strong and uncompromising character.
And yes, I'm not going to deny it, I have it...
It bothers me a lot about people who don't give value to things, who don't make an effort to improve their lives, who don't explore the diversity of the world, who don't read a postcard, let alone a book, who leave everything half done, who don't has an idealized dream, who does not listen to a little music, who judges you based on their own judgments and fears... all the things that have disappointed me in others bother me and that is why I am like that today.
So I am not going to change anything about myself to please someone I just met. Rather, I will evaluate, if time permits, whether that person deserves a place among mine, and I will only change for those who are willing to offer their own change. for our common benefit.
The people who pass by us will only stay if they like the content of your world, your fragility, and your strength... it's not about insensitivity, it's about knowing that you have the right to choose who you share with your life.
Always very grateful for your reading.
The text is entirely my own
All photos are my property
Using the Lightroom application, free version
Translation done with Deep Translate, free version.
Not everyone likes everyone else and human beings are always going to have differences of opinion and simply not like each other; I think what matters is that when we meet people is that we present as best we can, show interest in them and give them the best chance to like us. If they do not then I don't see any point in pushing the issue, I just move in to those who may. I never stress about it if someone doesn't like me, I mean there's so many that do not like me on Hive, and it doesn't really bother me too much because it leaves me more time to spend on those that do.
I'll come back and vote this, my VP is low at the moment.
Thank you so much for responding to this post, and as always you are so right...maybe you should have silenced it because the last sentence that accompanies it is totally yours....
Thanks again for teaching me some life lessons, that has helped me to live better with myself, even to enjoy with more conformity what I am and how I am, not because I didn't do it before, but because I understood that the transformation of the human being is a normal and transcendent process as well as the one where you never stop fighting for yourself because the spirit of survival and emancipation never leaves you.
I am and will be only for the people who care about me...the rest is secondary.
Have a great week @galenkp
I appreciate interesting and well thought-out posts like yours so thank you for taking the time.
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It's an interesting personality because in many ways I feel the same way, especially the last part, the same things bother me. Not everyone is going to like us and it's better to focus on those people we are in tune with. Big hug!😃
A big hug for you dear friend!
I don't want to give the impression of being someone difficult either, on the contrary, I like to be kind when I am introduced to someone and I try to be attentive and helpful for whatever is needed, but sometimes I think there are people who are not worth it and that's where I inevitably get irritated...then I focus on the ones who are worth it....
I hope you are enjoying a beautiful Christmas in Spain.
I send you many blessing and health.
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Have a beautiful Christmas full of love and peace, and of course, health!!! Thank you very much always!🤗
I tend to agree with those comments down below....we will not always be someone's 'cup of tea', but don't add sugar when you are feeling like lemon. In other words, just be yourself. The people who are meant to be in your circle will be drawn to you like a moth to a flame😊
That's right...sweetness in excess is very bad and ants take advantage and can eat you...😄.
Always like-minded people attract each other, and it's better to take care of them than to force friendships that aren't worth it.....
Thanks for reaching out to me post...
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Knowing yourself, not patronising, not judging, walking confidently and without regrets through life and carefully assessing the people you surround yourself with are definitely wise actions. 🙌
Seeking external validation all the time leads to unhappiness.
Merry Christmas! 🌻🥂
What can I tell you @nanixxx?
I've been so wrong about people (and still am), but I walk away from them with incredible peace and tranquility...that's what it's all about isn't it?
Merry Christmas to you too!
I've got some catching up to do with you, there are certain wonders out there worth looking at on your blog a week ago.
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