I don't think most husbands/fathers truly appreciate how much moms do for the children. how much time we sacrifice. How little me time we actually get for ourselves. And as moms we are on high alert all day around our children - it is pretty exhausting. When my husband appreciates me by sharing in the household chores, surprising me with a clean kitchen, making dinner - I feel loved. It can be as simple as cleaning the dishes. When I hear him sometimes telling the kids to keep their voices lower and "let mommy sleep", I just smile and think... thank you, I love you too... it's the small things that win my heart over... I don't think he always realises it... but I think the way to show them this is to thank them and be appreciative when they do speak your love language, even if it happens by accident - hopefully it will reinforce and reward the behaviour that we want to see more often. I also get similar throwaway comments that you do. I think a lot of wives do... because for us its a full time role. For our husbands, it is often something they do for short bursts of time. Perhaps I should rephrase that and say that I should probably be referring to primary care giver vs secondary care giver, rather than genders hehe... I hope that in time things will click for you guys !LOLZ !LUV

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