JUDGE FIRST, SORRY LATER

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So many will say don't judge a book by its cover, I will say otherwise, however, I have read quite a number of books (not because I read a lot) and some were without covers lol. I remember merely seeing the username depressedfuckup and telling myself this guy has to be a saddest, I mean you who bares such a username, with all the usernames to pick you just had to choose that. Later I discovered he was one of the neoxian city admins, not just any admin, but the one in charge of fun games; how ironic. I wasn't completely wrong though, getting to know the reason behind the username, but my overall judgment and assessment of him were not all correct.

Away from hive, I naturally prefer judging from criticism, because I wouldn't want to get disappointed in having high hopes for someone just because of something they did or said. I want to give them room to change my notion about them. Although most don't even know what my first notion was, and I like it that way as it's often not good. However, over time I have had to change my notions about people after seeing a verified act from them that completely knocks me off my feet. Like the one that happened recently at my school.

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We are currently writing our exams, and I met a girl who was newly transferred from Abia state polytechnic to my school on the first day of exams. You can imagine what she was going to write. Me thinking that way as I talked with the rest of the 300-level students, I noticed a kind of pride I normally see in people bearing favour. (Which happened to be her name) and the course they were writing that day was one which I had done in my 200 level, C++ computer programming language. I was surprised I still remember it like the back of my hand, but unfortunately for them, it was looking all strange. They were all complaining about not understanding anything the lecturer did in class, now how do you expect the one who just came to write when are course mates who have been in class don't know what to write.

The course is really technical despite getting an AB in the course in my second year I knew I crammed the whole textbook and poured it out for the lecturer the way it was, I didn't understand what I was doing then until I started learning programming during my IT days. Back to the exam hall I ended up seating with these guys, besides this girl especially, and noticed she wasn't writing anything. I took a look at the questions which were now elementary for me and told her to give me her question paper as I wrote down the answers there. Her coursemate sitting by my right then begged me to help her out too, and I did. This was me writing my exam, at the same time writing for two computer science students who didn't know anything about coding, and at the same time helping some electrical engineering students in final year with me with Numerical Methods (Advanced Mathematics) and at the same time answering my course mates who were calling me for assistance at the back. The lecturers invigilating that day weren't really paying attention to us as that was the last paper for the day and they were exhausted from invigilating since morning.

I came out of the exam hall that day with a very bad headache that made me go home at once, the next day I saw most of them I had helped in the exam hall, writing another paper I knew very well asking for help again which I gave. Although Favour and her coursemates weren't in school as they weren't having exams till the next week (Today). Surprisingly I woke up this morning and saw a Whatsapp message from a number not on my contact list, it was favour appreciating me for last week, which really surprised me because it was totally opposite of how I saw her. And has automatically changed part of my view about her. (I'm kinda hard to impress) but at the same time, I'm unapologetic about the notion I had about her as I will rather be happily amazed than horribly disappointed.

Another set of people who I help in the exam hall, which included a computer engineering 400 level student and the electrical engineering 500 level students still think it's their right for me to help them... I don't blame them though because it's very much how I had pictured them in my mind. So yes I judged this book by its cover and it played out exactly how I anticipated.

Thanks for stopping by my blog today, until next time.