Keys to A Meaningful Life

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There is no doubt that we as a species are evolving. We are constantly improving in almost all aspects of life, such as technology, knowledge, and even athletics. As mentioned by Charles Darwin in his study of human evolution, we humans needed to adapt to our environment to survive. But those days are long gone; we, as a species, improve, not to survive, but to thrive.

The invention of the internet, smartphones; the growth of billion-dollar companies; and booming businesses are popping out everywhere. It's safe to say that humankind is successful.

Success means happiness and fulfillment, right? But is that all there is to life?

I remember buying Bitcoin around July of 2017, just three months before the Bitcoin bubble. It was adorable to be able to spend on things that we want, dine in every day, enjoy steak and wine every night and book an air BnB for 20,000pesos a night for just the two of us. I felt happy and prosperous. But I was never used to this life.

I grew up with my grandparents on a farm where we enjoyed the food we harvested and grandfather's fresh catch of the day. It was the good old days. When I moved back to live with my family on the main island, it was about three hours by boat from my grandparents; I wasn't as happy as I lived with my grandparents.

There were times that we have a lot of food on the table whenever my father would send money from abroad, or he would send balikbayan boxes. Still, there would also be a time when my sisters, @gerel, and @genevieve, would scavenge food like root vegetables behind our house, and our neighbors would happily cook it in a tin can. My mom doesn't even know this because so many times, she would get stuck on the other island because of the bad weather since she works there as a public teacher.

Then I moved to the city to study and work for corporations, just like most normal people do. It was good money for me but I wasn't happy with my job.

When my partner and I started dating, I wrote down every expense we did and made sure not to go over our budget every day. We started saving money from his early retirement as an American veteran. He's only 39 now, and some people would think he is fortunate to retire early. Still, the story behind his life experience is beyond what you could imagine. I am very proud of him!

We were trading in the Philippine stock market. After three years of dating, our lives changed drastically. When we ventured on a new journey, we became crypto investors or crypto "speculators" instead because, for me, everything is speculation in this market.

We started traveling more; we went to Thailand for three weeks and stayed at one luxurious Airbnb. Some people would think that it's a good life, yes for those moments, but why did I felt that something was missing and I still got depressed sometimes.

If we were so successful, then why are people getting depressed daily? According to the World Health Organization, data from 2005-2015 signified a growth of 18.4%, equating to 322 million people suffering from depression globally. With 800,000 of these people dying from suicide which are mostly 15-29-year-olds. And with the current pandemic, those numbers are even more significant.

We think that success equals happiness, so we try to find ways to fill that "success." The word success is different for everyone; for others, it's running a big business; for some, it's becoming a celebrity; and some want to have a family. But all of these things meet at an intersection; this is our happiness. But if success means happiness, why are people still getting depressed?

How come that even Jack Ma, the founder of Alibaba and is one of the richest men on the planet, said that his happiest days were for him as a poor teacher, where he earned 91 RMB a month. This interview signifies that life isn't just about happiness; it's about finding the meaning of life.

With the pandemic ravaging the world, and all the time in my hands, I stumbled on a video by Emily Esfahani Smith in her TedTalk last 2017. She states that there is more to life than just happiness, and this resonated with me. The author also touched upon four pillars to a meaningful life. Belonging, purpose, transcendence, and storytelling.

The first pillar I found was when I lived with my Grandparents. I felt more comfortable, more at ease, and felt more accepted as a person while living with them. I found my purpose in life when I went out from the comfort of the province life and worked at giant corporations, and eventually became an investor with my partner; this was my purpose.

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Transcendence, I found, was when our baby came into our lives. My baby made my life more meaningful. I never knew real love until he came into our lives. After he came into our lives, I've felt more optimistic in life and felt positive even during the most challenging times. I feel like I can handle everything because I need the reason to live because of him.

The final pillar is something that I am constantly working on, telling my story. My story does not end here; my story is only just beginning. I have more stories to share with you and events in my life worth sharing to inspire and motivate others who need it.

I hope this article inspired you in some way and enable you to find your four pillars in life and make you live your life more meaningfully.

Which part of this article resonated with you? Let me know in the comments below!


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I think, it was the best part of your life while you are with grandparents, engage with harvesting and after that when you are become a mother which inspire you live, fight back, durability, survive, take the challenge to become a part of your complete life. Your story is also interesting with common issues but finding happiness which you want to be, as crypto investor is also delighted of your life, !LUV your story.

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It was them who mold me into who I am today! Every second with my fam feels like I'm living my best life 🥰


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I watched Ms Emily Esfahani Smith's video last 2019 and re-watched it last year 2020 and I even took notes of the four pillars to a meaningful life (Belonging, purpose, transcendence, and storytelling) 😍
My takeaway after watching this video was that the key to finding meaning in life is:

  1. to find "your own place and space" where you belong and get connected to community
  2. to find your "purpose"; this is very subjective because it is different for everyone; but mostly it is the "drive" within you that sparks joy as you do a certain thing
  3. transcendence is the experience that can be "beyond" anything that you could have imagined possible for yourself
  4. storytelling--THIS WAS SO MINDBLOWING FOR ME the first time I read it; So many people have negative scripts for their lives and they cannot even realize that they are doing it; it is important to keep changing our scripts as we evolve and to not get stuck on our past whatsoever

I LOVE THIS POST, Ms Gil!!~😍😍

Thank you so much! Glad that we both watched a video that somehow influenced our lives!💖

Me too! I love watching videos that I can learn so much from😍😘
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Yay! Learning will always be our most important key 💖

I can't agree more ms Gil! 🤓🥰

Yay! Hope we can stumble upon another inspirational talk again 💖 Will definitely share it with you!

I can't wait for ittttt🥰🥰🥰I'll be waiting for your upcoming posts on HaZen😍😍😍😍😍😍

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There are many stages in life, it changes from time to time when you least expected. As human we have to keep pushing and never give up and stay focus. This is a beautiful post @purepinay

Couldn't agree more! Keep pushing, never give up, and stay focus indeed! 💖

It is! We all have our own beautiful life after all. Hoping for everyone's success! 💖

Hola , hermoso post. Me translada a tiempos vividos, con buenos momentos. Siempre hay un pilar, un impulso en esta vida. Con mente positiva y agradeciendo a Dios por todo, nuestra vida toma un buen giro. Me encanto tu escrito es ideal.

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Thank you for sharing this to us Gil. You never fail to inspire us by sharing your stories that motivate us to do more and be better.

You're welcome! We all need to find our inspiration to drive us every single day. And, am sure you are someone's motivation too!

Awww.. This is such an inspiring post Gil. :) I really look up to you. How you view life and how you try to balance things out. :) Thank you for being an inspiration.

It's amazing to feel that I can influence people. Someday, you will also be someone's role model. Claim it!

Thanks so much for the great read :) Yes, we all need to find joy - which is different from happiness.

Joy is a staye of being, not an emotion. I think if we all worried less about happiness and more about being joyful there would be fewer suicides.

You're welcome, and thank you too for reading here!

My path has been led by a camera for the last 8 years, the day I picked it up at the store, One year later after this purchase I was started to see how I can create value without having to borrow money from someone or always look for a job.
It also was help me to get in coin market world when I did not have nothing.

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That's great! Inspiration is indeed not limited to a person. Some things are great sources of inspiration too. Thanks for making me realize that!

you're welcome :)

I really enjoyed this storytelling @purepinay, we both have very similar keys to a meaningful life!

$300ish coins were very affordable in those days, wink wink!

Just want to help make this story perfect!

"It was adorable to be able"

Glad we have the same keys to a meaningful life! Added to my saved quotations "It was adorable to be able" Thank you!

Lol, that was yours! I was quoting this ===>>> It was adorable to be able to spend on things that we want, dine in every day, enjoy steak and wine every night and book an air BnB for 20,000pesos a night for just the two of us. I felt happy and prosperous. But I was never used to this life.

Oh! Sorry for that, didn't realize it as there are so many things I have in mind 😫 Thank you so much for reading here!

Exactly friend I have been saying for some time that the changes in the last 20 years have been barbarous for humanity, scientific and technological advances have turned life on the planet upside down

Right! Today it was more of a battle between the psychology of materialistic possessions and true happiness :<<

How come that even Jack Ma, the founder of Alibaba and is one of the richest men on the planet, said that his happiest days were for him as a poor teacher, where he earned 91 RMB a month.

Maybe that was less stressful for him. Many people cannot (unable to) (and/or do not even want to) handle fame (and other circumstances). Many famous actors/actresses, singers and other people "escape" to use alcohol or even drugs, and ruin their own lives.

Not to mention the fact that owning/managing a huge, worldwide company, like Alibaba comes with a huge responsibility and stress. Even Elon Musk said that he do not want to be the CEO of Tesla. He just have to. Or at least he said that Tesla would die if he was not CEO.

Right! When we were young, we were taught that we have to be rich to attain happiness. But upon growing up, we realised that in everyone's typical success (which is showering with money), great pressure and massive responsibility come within.

Happiness is really relative, indeed. But what I can generally say is "Being successful and happy at the same time is finding our purpose in life. It'll be hard, but it'll be worth it."

"I am happy > Society said this is happiness." 😉

"I am happy > Society said this is happiness."....👏👏. Oh how I'm going to make this my daily mantra

Yay! Glad that I can positively influence you!