First Impressions and Personal Growth: Would a New Person Like Me?

If I met a new person today, whether they’d like my personality would depend on the individual and the circumstances. I’ve come to realize that I’m not the type of person who instantly connects with others, especially strangers. I tend to be reserved and cautious when meeting new people, and it takes a while before I feel comfortable enough to show my true personality. For me to open up or fully express myself, I need to build some level of closeness and have several conversations with the person. Because of this, someone might not find me particularly likable based on a first impression, simply because I won’t show much of who I am right away.

With boys, however, it’s a bit different. I feel like it’s easier to get along with them because, generally, life among boys is straightforward. There’s no pressure or drama. You can sit together, laugh, crack jokes, and even have a good time without necessarily knowing each other’s names. It’s easier to be yourself around them and let your guard down. So, I think most boys would like my personality, at least eventually, because I’m relaxed and natural around them. It’s not complicated.

On the other hand, when it comes to girls, I can admit that it’s a bit more challenging for me. In the past, I’ve had girls tell me that I come off as boring or too serious. I think this stems from the fact that I don’t know how to hold a proper conversation with them. I find it hard to maintain a lively or engaging discussion, and that often leaves a dull impression. Another issue is that I’m not the type to share much about myself with girls, especially when I’ve just met them. I struggle with trusting them enough to open up, which makes me seem distant and guarded. This is definitely something I’m trying to work on because I know it’s important if I want to form meaningful connections with them.

One thing I’ve noticed is that girls generally don’t like shy guys, and, to be honest, I am quite shy around them. They tend to appreciate confidence in a guy, but that’s an area where I often fall short. Whether it’s having a conversation with a girl in public, taking a walk with her, or just spending time together, I struggle to feel confident or act naturally. I end up overthinking things, which makes me seem awkward or tense. This lack of confidence is something I’m actively trying to improve because I know it’s a big factor when it comes to building relationships.

To address this, I’ve been working on talking more and putting myself in situations where I can engage with girls without overthinking. I try to focus on the conversation itself rather than the idea of wanting to impress them or wondering if they like me. It’s not an overnight fix, but I’m making progress, and that’s what matters.

This self-improvement journey is one of the reasons I don’t have girls I’m talking to at the moment. I believe it’s crucial to focus on myself first—to develop confidence, learn to hold better conversations, and become more comfortable in my own skin. By doing this, I hope to attract the right people and feel more at ease around them, especially girls. It’s a work in progress, but I’m committed to the process because I know it’s worth it.

Thanks for reading.