Change is inevitable, change will always happen, but you have to apply direction to change, and that's when it's progress.
I was thinking today about direction and how difficult it can sometimes be to change the course that you've been on for a while. People don't like change generally. I understand the psychology behind that and I see that within myself as well from time to time.
Sometimes big change requires big effort and sometimes change happens because of one decision that completely shatters the status quo. Each situation requires us to move things along albeit in a different direction than before. I've recently been having many discussions with friends about people of today don't really have a moral compass and whether they even realise it. It seems very easy to simply follow the latest trend instead of actually asking the question - is this the right thing to do?
Generally I don't conform to the ways and whims of the general populace because I tend to be skeptical about that being the right path as so many are being misled by propaganda or an agenda. I've come to this through experience and simply observing the behaviours of others objectively.
It's like that sometimes in our lives with our peers, family and even friends. Recently I became friends with someone who lives close by. She has some issues with her one son who becomes a terrible person when he drinks. She found in me not just a confidant to speak to about how this makes her feel, but also some security in having someone close by in case she needed some form of law enforcement intervention.
I'm happy to help someone in need like this and I've been there for her, supporting her emotionally as best I can with the situation; sticking up for her and backing her when he was wrong. I then realised that she started trying to derail my plans to move when she realised that it wouldn't fit her needs anymore. I feel bad for her situation as she really needs to get out of it, but I can't be here only to entertain her needs when I have my own life, plans and requirements for the future.
It saddened me when I saw how selfish that action was - that she was trying to dissuade me, sabotage me even from implementing strategies to propel myself forward with my goals in the direction I need to go.
People generally don't like change, I'm very good at it but I too don't particularly enjoy the process while it's taking place. It comes down to being uncomfortable and sometimes the best decisions are cast with the die when one small change can totally upset the apple cart and the ripple effect outward - while being distressing, can entirely change your life and everything in it from there.
I know the direction I need to go and while the change can be burdensome and I have a lot to do before I'm done, I know that steering true north is the only way I'm headed, immaterial of any who try to derail my plans. Progress isn't always easy, but it's always worth it.
The images are my own
Change is inevitable, we all change, our lives changes, so those who can accept this fact, can manage the situation better. However, what your friend did is unacceptable in my book. I know the type and at the end of the day, it is a selfish act, but the good thing is, at least you know it's unilateral as these people I wouldn't call friends.
By the way, that photo is amazing!
You are so right, it doesn't matter how much we want things to remain the same or how much we might want them to change, there are some changes that come with no warrant or warning and you have to adjust.
I was very upset with her to be honest, I understand her situation but there is no way that I'm going to remain in place as back up when she herself is doing little to change her own situation. She simply throws her hands up and says "I don't have the answers". People can effect change just as much as change can affect us.
Thanks a stack, I'm glad I stopped to take it, couldn't let it pass by without being captured. Have a great day @erikah. Thanks for stopping by.
I had a friend like that. She said she could not live without me as she needed me, but only for her selfish reasons. One day I got to a point where i told her I don't want to se her ever again and left.
Have a nice weekend my friend 🤗
Straight and to the point, I think I'm getting to that stage myself now too. I'm glad you were able to make the break away. Some people just aren't worth fighting for.
Hope your weekend is awesome too. 🦋
It's always good to extend a hand of help to others because tomorrow that person might be of help to you. Facing foreword in life if the way of encouraging yourself. Thanks for sharing.
It's always a pleasure. I try to help people where I can, if I can. Sometimes people just need an ear to listen or a hug, some advice or a different way of seeing things.
Yes that is true. Your word of encouragement can go a long way in helping them.