Thoughts of a refugee in Netherlands

in Team Ukraine2 months ago (edited)

Today in the shelter, a good dinner was served for all the refugees. It was supposed to be a good dinner for me too, I mean for general people the meal was good but not for me. The name of the meal was Mexican-style rice with pineapple chicken curry. And I don't like pineapples when they are cooked and act like a vegetable. I love pineapples but not with pizza or curry. Many people love cooked pineapples but for me, pineapples are only a fruit, nothing more than that. That's why I will never be a fan of Hawaiian pizza. So, when all the Ukrainians were enjoying their dinner, I was thinking about what to eat for dinner. Then later I decided to go with the meal slightly modified. I separated the pineapples and the chickens and I mixed the small pieces of the chickens with the rice. That's all I have eaten for dinner.

I am trying to keep my life simple and basic, attempting to keep it to a minimum as much as possible. It's not possible for me to eat outside every day, we don't have a chance to cook our own food, it's not allowed to cook where I am staying currently. So, my options are either eating food from the shelter or buying food from the outside, which is not a good option for everyday meals. So, it doesn't matter whether I like the food from the shelter or not, I eat it after slight modification. After all, if I eat in the shelter, it saves a lot of money too.


I started saving some money that I am earning from my job. My salary is minimum and I have some monthly expenses though I don't need to pay rent now. but in the future, when I will rent an apartment and if I decide to stay in the Netherlands, for housing I need a lot of money. It's not easy to get an apartment in Almere, Netherlands, there are some rules and regulations. I know a few rules but I am not taking the headache of finding an apartment now. I clearly know that I won't be able to afford single-month rent now and I have a big dog that requires a large single space. It was effortless to get a studio in Kharkiv but in the Netherlands, not easy. In fact, many people are waiting to get their own house and space. And the rent is really high if it is private property.


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People from other part of the world thinks that European lifestyle is pretty amazing, seems like a fairy tale. Sometimes people can't see the reality of life or probably they don't want to see it. Because of the social media we love to see good things, everybody shares their perfect life. Nobody shares the hard and dark moments on social media because nobody wants to know about the hard times of life. Probabaly, I was not able to see the beauty and advantages of the European lifestyle because of my current life situations. Probabaly circumstances are not allowing me right now. I don't know yet...

I don't expect much now, it's like I am on a boat and I am going there wherever my boat is taking me. I don't know the destiny and I don't care about anything else now. My focus is only on my survival with my dog, nothing more than that.

I don't know how others are dealing with their life and I don't wanna know. It's too much for me. I can't handle so many opinions, it confuses me easily. I don't think I have PTSD anymore but I don't know. Life taught me many things and after fleeing from the war, I stopped thinking about the future and long-term plans.


Thank you so much for reading...




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I've always liked pineapple, either plain or cooked in foods. The sweetness balances nicely with pepperoni or salami on a pizza, or balances the rice wine vinegar & soy sauce in Sweet & Sour Chicken at a Chinese restaurant. There's not much food that I don't like! 😁

"I don't expect much now, it's like I am on a boat and I am going there wherever my boat is taking me. I don't know the destiny and I don't care about anything else now. My focus is only on my survival with my dog, nothing more than that... Life taught me many things and after fleeing from the war, I stopped thinking about the future and long-term plans."

Sometimes, I think we try to make too many plans in Life. There is a certain pleasure that comes from "living in the moment," especially during healing phases. I think it is good to stop occasionally, and just BE. At times like those, the "big picture" of what is important can become clearer. Revel in drifting with the boat, for it might take you to someplace amazing. 🙂

The sweetness balances nicely with pepperoni or salami on a pizza, or balances the rice wine vinegar & soy sauce in Sweet & Sour Chicken at a Chinese restaurant. There's not much food that I don't like!

I like sweet and sour chicken but if they use pineapple, I can't eat it. I love the sweet-sour flavor but I don't like pineapple if it is cooked.

There's not much food that I don't like!

Really? Do you eat spicy food? :D

I think it is good to stop occasionally, and just BE. At times like those, the "big picture" of what is important can become clearer. Revel in drifting with the boat, for it might take you to someplace amazing.

Yes and I am feeling like pushing myself won't give me anything, time will fix everything part by part...

Hawaiian pizza has quite a few detractors in many parts of the world. Personally, I am very adaptable with the use of fruits, for example, I think avocado (Palta or Aguacate) is a fruit that in many countries is consumed with dairy products and sweets (yogurt, milk, milk cream, etc.), but I accept that in some countries it is served seasoned with salt and as an accompaniment to meat, it is also the same with tomato, which I find so often in a meat stew, in a juice with lemon or raw in a salad.

On the other hand, I had read before that housing and service costs were very high in European countries, varying a bit from city to city, so I understand that you don't currently have a budget to rent on your own. It is good that you are saving, even if it is little at present, because in the future it should be useful to you.

I wish you well and that things get better in the near future. Stay !ALIVE

The use of avocado nowadays is very popular and every way people like to eat it, tomato also the same but in my opinion fruits can be used for dessert but not in curry type of meal. But yes, it's people's choice...

On the other hand, I had read before that housing and service costs were very high in European countries, varying a bit from city to city, so I understand that you don't currently have a budget to rent on your own. It is good that you are saving, even if it is little at present, because in the future it should be useful to you.

Very expensive and in the future, I guess I need to save money to rent an apartment...

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Friend @priyanarc, I think that really the pineapple is not the problem, it's just what made you collapse and write to drain how bad you feel and that's okay to do, in my case I feel good to read you because it is a way to understand you and not focus on my problems here in Medellin, a city that welcomed me but also has its difficult moments, but my dear friend now I think of yours and wish you are well and that Gigi continues well, that her health continues well, blessings friend, keep on brave.

Thank you my friend, I think everybody has different taste of food and I guess pineapple is not for me when it is cooked :D

I am very worried about Gigi, she sometimes collapses which is very scary. She is having a hard time adjusting here to this weather and situation...

Maybe Gigi's body is reacting, give her all the attention that is in your hands, also keep her water bowl clean to take care of her bladder, as long as she drinks and eats she is fine. Friend I love my pets and I understand you.

I am following your instructions and changed her diet, new diet seems like working nicely...

I love pineapples but not with pizza or curry.

Same thing here. Hot cooked pineapple tastes horribly!!! 🤢

I'm sure you'll be able to get a place to live in the future. Maybe you'll need to share an apartment... but you'll get there! Keep on working and everything will be alright!

Hot cooked pineapple tastes horribly!!

Think about hot pineapple curry :D

Maybe you'll need to share an apartment... but you'll get there! Keep on working and everything will be alright!

Yes, let's see what is waiting for us next...

I like cooked pineapple like the Brazilians make it barbecued with cinnamon. It's a digestive served on their all-you-can-eat barbecue buffet thing. I haven't tried in pizza nor in any of the Mexican dishes.

Life sucks. We have a pretty crazy idea about Europe just as they have a crazy idea of the life in LATAM. We are both wrong about it all. I hope you find some respite of your situation. It must the one of the hardest things to live through.

I love cinnamon but trust me I tried my best to like pineapples in food but I can't eat them in food. I am a spice girl and for me, pineapple is the only just fruit that I love to eat as a fruit... Probably, this is all about taste, for example, many people don't like mushrooms at all...

We have a pretty crazy idea about Europe just as they have a crazy idea of the life in LATAM

For sure :D hahaha...

I bet. Guess it's like my thing with some kinds of cheese. It's all about trastes and textures. And well, I don't understand people who do not like mushrooms except for those who can't digest then properly. 😅

I can't stand cooked pineapples either. I never understood why people want to take a sweet wet fruit and either mix it in with a dish like its a veggie or put it on pizza. Waste of a perfectly fresh fruit in my opinion.

Your only focus being on survival is probably for the best.
Wish you and your dog the best of luck Priyan.

I can't stand cooked pineapples either. I never understood why people want to take a sweet wet fruit and either mix it in with a dish like its a veggie or put it on pizza. Waste of a perfectly fresh fruit in my opinion.

Same opinion besides I don't like the taste because many put pineapple to give a sweet-sour taste but I personally think there are many ways to make food sweet and sour rather than using pineapples...

Your only focus being on survival is probably for the best.

That is my current thought...

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Wow very profound your final reflection, at the beginning of the post, it was just about the cooked pineapple, but you managed to capture my attention with your narrative, about the savings, the rental apartments, the plans and the long term that went out of your life.
I can't imagine, your emotions and thoughts, even if I try to imagine it, it is a very profound experience, something that literally changed your life forever. Even if the war is over and you can go back to your old life. You will never be the same again.
Please share pictures with your dog, you mention he is big. Good that you were able to take him with you.
Best regards and we are in communication.😃👍

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Thank you so much for the wonderful feedback and I am glad that you found the post interesting as I often write my shitty life update posts... The pineapple story seems to catch many people's eyes :D hahaha... Well, my point was the food we eat in the shelter/ refugee camp and the people like me who don't like cooked pineapple, it's very hard for them to have lunch or dinner only with cooked pineapple because there are no other options...

War literally changed my life including many people's lives, I honestly don't know when I will be able to go back home...

My dog is a long-legged labrador retriever, I have some photos of her...

You can check her here...

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que linda la perra, tiene un rostro encantador.
Gracias por comapartir esa foto.
Me alegra que ella te acompañe, es una compañera fiel.
Un abrazo fraterno y seguiremos en contacto.
Feliz fin de semana 👍

The grass is greener in the other houses. It is very true, people often believe that the lives of others are easier.
On the other hand, pizza shouldn't have pineapple, it should be a crime, hehe.

The grass is greener in the other houses. It is very true, people often believe that the lives of others are easier.

Exactly, almost everyone thinks this way, unfortunately...

On the other hand, pizza shouldn't have pineapple, it should be a crime, hehe.

:P :P

I am already working...

an arrangement with locals where they give you room and board for babysitting, doing chores, anything like that.

No, because unfortunately Dutch people don't trust people so easily and I have been looking for such work as well. Somebody said that she can manage something but she is on holiday so when she will come, we will talk. Norway and Finland are on my mind, will think about them if I don't find anything here.