This may come as surprising to you guys but in all my life, I've only been to two/three wedding ceremonies. One a traditional wedding, while the other being a church wedding.
The traditional wedding had not been that great because it happened at my village (one of my aunt was the one getting married) but I didn't know anyone there except for my family members. So all I did was just sit at a little corner and just waited for them to start sharing food.
The church wedding on the other hand was a little bit interesting. It was many years ago and probably the first time I saw two people kiss without my dad yelling at I and my siblings to close our eyes.
This time it was one of my uncles getting married and I still didn't know anyone there but there was a huge difference. With tradition, it just feels like any slight mistake from you might result to you having to perform some cleansing ritual which might require you killing a cow or something, but with Church wedding, everything feels so friendly. So I was more free at the church wedding than I was at the traditional wedding.
But if there's one lesson I took home from this two weddings, it's that I want a small wedding. Just my family with maybe one or two friends to witness the marriage will be more than enough for me. I don't need to invite the whole community just because I want to get married.
Why? Well aside from the fact that it's cost effective, having too many people at my wedding just feels like too much. I've never liked being in the midst of too many people and being the centre of attention. If I had my way, I wouldn't even be at my own wedding. Lol.
But on a more serious note, after witnessing both weddings and seeing the amount of people that attended, I'd rather just have a small quiet wedding and apologise to everyone later for not inviting them.
I don't want to get shy even to the extent where I can't kiss my wife properly just because I have 200 pair of eyes watching me and grinning from ear to ear. Kissing her right in front of my dad is already hard at it is, I don't want to add to that. Lol.
Hopefully, whoever the wife gets to be will agree with me, or else she will attend the wedding alone and then gets waybill to my place.