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I think fear is normal, there is really nothing wrong with being scared because it is also a feeling just like love, happiness, hate, and others. All humans are born to feel so getting scared isn't completely bad and what can make it worse is when we react wrongly while being scared.
Not everyone gets bad results out of fear and that's because they were able to put the situation they found themselves in under control. Fear most times prevents you from thinking properly and that's what results in problems because people go for the wrong options.
I had so many experiences with fear and I haven't really done well in handling them but there is one that I am glad I didn't mess up with.
A true relationship is not something I thought I will find in school back then but I did. My previous relationship ended about 7 months before I got admission. She was insecure, she knew how open I was to people and she thought the school exposure would change me.
I decided to stay out of a relationship and I was surprised my ex got married a few months after, I felt down because it looked like she has been cheating and I didn't know.
I got in a relationship a year after and it was perfect. God must have seen my heart and blessed me with someone who understands and love me unconditionally. My girlfriend decided to put me on to test after our first anniversary.
I was busy working at my mom's shop when she called and told me she got pregnant. I didn't believe my ears, I was broken down.
How could I be so stupid to let that happen? That day didn't end well for me, I told her no problem but I knew deep inside me that there was a problem.
I wasn't ready to be a father and she wasn't either even though we were adults already, I could barely feed myself not to talk of raising a family. A lot of things were at stake, my future will be shattered, carrying on with my education will be impossible and I will definitely not be able to support my mom.
I got sick before the day ran out and that night I told my mom because she is my only confidant. She was disappointed, I wept because that was the last thing on my mind.
She asked for my girlfriend's number and I gave her. I called her in the morning and told her that we are having the baby.
She asked how because we are both students and none of our family was doing great financially. I don't know but I will work things out was what I told her, I sent her about $5 to get fruits and some snacks she might start craving. I thought of getting a night job in a factory to support my hustle because of what was ahead.
I spoke to her sister who claimed to be aware of the situation and I tried to be strong. Surprisingly I got the money I sent to her back, I asked why and she said I passed her test.
I was pissed, I didn't know how to tell mom that it was a prank.
I wasn't brave or smart in that situation and I was really scared, I only did what I did because I felt it was the right thing to do. It would disturb my plans but I brought it upon myself and I must bear the consequences.
That incident made her sister picked interested in me because her previous relationship ended when she played the pregnancy prank. I learned my lesson, what if it was true? It would be the beginning of an unprepared adventure that might break me completely.
I am glad it wasn't true and I didn't make a rash decision out of fear because I could have lost such a beautiful soul. It didn't end there because I ranked her as well and she passed as well.
Awwn...I can imagine how happy she was to know you were such a young and responsible person, it's a good thing you didn't let the fear of her pregnancy make you deny her.
What about your mom, how did you finally get her to understand that it was all a prank?
I told her after a a few days and she warned me about sex because it could ruin my future if the unexpected comes into the picture.
That's nice, I'm sure she was happy after all because she didn't want her son to go through so much stress.
Hehe... This is serious indeed. Quite a scare you had there. That is the thing with tests, they can either go really well or they can go really bad. I'm glad your own went well.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
It wasn't easy embracing the challenge, I was scared because a lot was at stake for me but I don't want to have the blood of an unborn on my hands, and the life of my girlfriend matters to me as well. If things go wrong if I choose the other option left for me, things might go very ugly for me.
Really glad you were able to pass the test. Such a test is quite heavy on any guy.
It was really too much for me, I was really pissed when I discovered the truth.
Aww I love love stories that end this well. You're one brave & sincere guy that is certainly rare these days. Congrats for being a man and not letting your fears define your future.
I wasn't brave enough dear, I knew a lot was at risk if I agree to be a father but there is a bigger risk I wasn't willing to take. What if something happens to her and I will also be committing murder of an unborn soul.
I wasn't just ready to bear the consequence of things getting wrong, the safest option for me was embracing my mistakes.
And that was the right thing to do even if it meant you losing some things but in the end, you'll not regret your actions. Thanks so much for sharing.
That's true, I won't regret it even though it might be difficult from the beginning.
That your ex deserves an award, what a low-key cheating!🤣
You tried on that prank, only God knows what would have been my reaction 🤦
Lolz, she deserves accolades. Unfortunately, the marriage crashed a year after but I wish her happiness though.
It was tough test, I was sweating when she broke the news to me. It wasn't a small thing.
That ex was surely cheating. Imagine just a month after, and omo! You try o, that's a big test. It will destabilise me for days, but it is what it is one have to take responsibility and be a man. Though it was a test, you did the right thing.
Yeah, responsibility no be a small thing but we just have to do what's right.
I can feel great fear when you hear the news, because in a position where both of you are not ready to become parents but fate has determined you to have a baby quickly, and for all this it is not real, and I see though You feel afraid but you are still responsible and can control your emotions.
The fear was real, I couldn't concentrate on anything else than what the future had in store for me.