I enjoyed reading your post. I think you come to the interesting conclusion that desire causes suffering. This is something that is said a lot in Eastern philosophies. And I think you are right, attachment to the material can cause suffering, because you put yourself in a position of "slave to it". It is what religious people call idolatry.
When you refer to a constant force that goes beyond duality, it is something that could be said not to enslave you but to empower you.
I think the problem of duality has a lot to do with what the Bible is trying to teach with the Tree of Good and Evil. The sin of Adam and Eve is to perceive the world according to that duality, evaluating everything in terms of good and bad. But as you say, God goes beyond and transcends that duality, and that is where we must look.
You know I didnt even get to what I wanted to get to which was my relationship with God. I have Eastern view points or rather perspectives on it. The relationship I have and probably most with God is one that is psychotic. There erupts this play that is indescribable. I find find the concept of Krishna to be one I really hold dear. The supreme personality God. I see the persona of God. When I am in a fixated state of mind or when I reach out I encounter an energy that is truly informative and interactive. It is like you are apart of a play and left wondering how much of a unwilling actor you are in it. There are truly choices we have before us and which ever we chose is the part we play. I have found God to be really full of unconditional love in this respect. We can choose whatever part we play or even if we are just spectators there to witness the glory of it all. Sometimes getting lost in the play is so fun but getting lost in it we can forget that it is all just a play. I dont know if that makes sense as it never really did to me just that it is what it is. Much love man and I really do appreciate you making time for my post!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it is truly something transcendental about life and indescribable at the same time.