Your past, no matter how bad it was, does not define your future. The choices and actions you make today will ultimately define who you will eventually become. Make the decision to learn from your past and apply it in the present so that you can live the life that you were meant to live. You deserve it!
When someone says your past may have defined you, but you get to decide your future and who you are today, it’s exactly the way the headline describes it. Many people have proven this to be true by letting their past not define their future. Others believe that their past defines them, and they cannot live a better life in better circumstances.
This is so true. Although you cannot change how you were brought up by your parents or their beliefs or how you lived as a child.
**Here is an example story, read it and answer the questions below it. **
Let's say your father had abandoned you and your mom and you had to move into a new house. For a long time, it is only you and your mom living in the house. One day she met a guy, and after being together for about a year he asked her to marry him. He was a perfect gentleman, and it was the best thing that could happen to you.
At the beginning of the relationship, your mom seemed so happy, so you thought it would be good for her. Even though you were a little jealous, you went with it, and your mom marries the man. He obviously becomes your stepfather now and he moves in. Same house, new rules.
One evening, while you are in your room, you hear a disturbance downstairs. You slowly go downstairs and see what the commotion is about. Nobody sees you, but you must watch while your new stepfather shouts and screams like a hooligan after coming home drunk. He is also calling your mom names and swearing at her. You want to intervene, but then your mom sees you and shows you to go back upstairs.
He was not such a gentleman! He had a hidden agenda and starts to treat you differently and treat your mom like a piece of rubbish.
After all of this, he starts treating you differently. He starts drinking more and shouts at everyone. All you want to do is to get out of the house and take your mother with you, but she keeps on hoping things will change back to the way it was. Months later nothing has changed. If he drinks he goes crazy but if he doesn't he acts normal.
Years of physical and emotional abuse go by until one day your mom just doesn't come home. Weeks go by and you hear nothing. You cannot believe that your mother has just left you. You are left to deal with your stepfather alone. You manage to stay out of his way and make sure he has everything that he needs.
You start blaming your mother for leaving you, but you can also understand why she did. You are torn but you have nowhere else to go.
You are home as little as possible, so you don't have to deal with your stepfather. You stay out late and go back home when you know he is asleep. You leave before he wakes up.
Until one day when you turn eighteen. You can finally try to find a job somewhere so that you can look after yourself.
Your boss sees the potential in you and sends you to complete extra courses for a better position. You work yourself up to a managerial position. You are still so scared of men because they all seem the same.
You hate alcohol, and when you finally meet the perfect guy who sees you for who you are. Life is bliss, and finally, all the heartache fades away even though the emotional scars are still there.
It takes months to say yes after he proposed, but you still doubt if marriage is the way to go. You decide to move in with him to see how it works out, but the doubt is still there even though you know and trust him with your whole heart.
After a year of begging, he finally gives up and moves out. Once again you are alone, but you are safe.
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Do you think the girl in the story had a hard life? Why do you say so?
Do you think that the girl ever got out of her situation?
Do you think the behavior of the girl's mother affected the daughter?
What do you think happened to the stepfather?
What do you think prevented the girl to marry her boyfriend?
Do you think that the girl ever had children of her own?
Do you think the girl ever advanced financially in life?
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