There's been times in which I've been tied down, confined or tethered and, despite it often been necessary like being tethered to a situation, course of action, task, or just being tied to working within set guidelines, it's generally made me feel restless; I like to roam.
Looking back, I can say some situations have left me feeling angry and I make no apology for it; my life is a journey of discovery and so it makes sense that along the way I've made mistakes, learned new things and done things better the next time and, besides, anger is a human trait and we all experience it - I don't believe it's healthy to deny it altogether. However, acting rashly when angry and not dealing with or restraining anger before making decisions and taking action, or just holding onto it for too long, is not generally productive and opens up the opportunity for other problems.
It's that last bit that I've learned along the way and as I've applied better thoughts attitudes and techniques to my life I've found better results and greater levels of contentment.
But...I'm currently feeling restrained, I'd say weighed down, but tied down suits my post-image better so I'll say that.
I have a few things going on down here, things I've purposely not spoken about on the blockchain, which have me very committed to a course of action. Other things seem on hold and for a man like me who likes to feel free and roam far and wide it's leaving me feeling discontent. The good thing about me is that I'm hard working, resolute, responsible and disciplined and so I do what I must, but the emotional toll is high, and so it's a constant struggle to maintain an equilibrium. My mini-getaways help, time with nature, reading, building Lego, movies, writing and other such things, but I am feeling restless to travel and it's that exact thing I don't have the ability to make happen right now.
I've travelled around the world and had some amazing adventures along the way. I can bring them to mind and literally feel the way I did at the time and whilst that feels so great, it always circles back to the fact that right now I can't wander the world as I have done in the past...and that confined feeling creeps in, and a little anger, I'll admit.
As I said earlier, this isn't the first time I've felt this way and I think it won't be the last, but with the way things changed in 2020 and the trips I had cancelled because of that situation all piled onto the commitments I have now and the lack of wandering...I'm feeling a little tethered to the realities of life...and watch my life slip a little more each day.
I am a diligent and hard working person, I know how to do difficult things, and therefore facilitate the situation here knowing that I'm doing exactly the right thing in doing so; regret makes for a poor companion and I'd not want to look back and feel I could have done more. But I'm allowed to feel other things too, the longing to travel, that freedom I feel when in outer countries going where my feet take me and experiencing life; it's that which I feel most in need of currently.
I know some of you have complex situations, are tethered to circumstances and scenarios that you would otherwise not choose, just like me; many of you probably have worse situations than I do I guess. I wonder, how do you support yourself emotionally and stay in a place that's conducive to forward progress and ultimate resolutions. Do you have hopes and dreams, goals and plans as I do and do you use them to focus and motivate? Maybe you fall in a heap and rise again through sheer will power?
Feel free to tell me about how you look after your personal wellbeing, stay focused through difficult times and still engage with your own life.
Design and create your ideal life, don't live it by default; tomorrow isn't promised so be humble and kind - galenkp
The ball of string image was taken by me.
Makes a big difference if you chose the encumbrance willingly or not.
For some people, having had no say in the matter helps them let it go and get on with life.
For others, knowing they committed themselves lets them embrace the situation without resentment. We're a funny old bunch really.
It's a situation in which there was no choice but to deal with it in the way I am, so I'm making it work. I think I've earned the right to have a whinge about not having the chance to travel though. I'll be off and travelling when it all plays out though, and that thought keeps me going.
I'm so sorry that you can't travel currently, I know it's something that you always look forward to and that feeling of freedom that comes with it, makes life seem a bit more worthwhile. I'm sure you'll be able to travel again at some stage, for now, take the short stints out in nature as small opportunities to breathe and keep looking forward.
Travel will happen eventually, and whilst I'm feeling a little down and out about not being able to, at least I have the skills and understanding to keep myself on the right side of the line in the meantime.
I am struggling...
Emotionally (mentally) more than physically. The brain fog is REAL. And it scares me. We have both had personal family experiences with dementia.
Seems like I am driving head on into a fog bank. Not knowing the road and slowing to a snails pace in my mind. I do not like operating day to day with no set goal or plan for the future. The Tyrants in power have robbed me if that.
I know what you mean, life has taken new and unsavoury paths lately and I fear it'll not end up anywhere good for anyone us. The world has gone bonkers and gets worse each week.
I wish I had some phenomenal thing to tell about how I handle such things in my life, too much of what I would prefer not to have and not enough of things (not things) ....to pull me forward and make me excited for things to come.
In my case I have become off balance in that I feel like I am not doing enough, not being part of enough, not having a seeable purpose. That sounds kind of cliche, but it feels real here for now. I can say that and not convey it in a depressed kind of way. I am an upbeat person by nature fortunately, but my life happenings and purposes aren't the right level.... the right balance for me.
Still, like you, I keep doing what I can to make the necessary life things that need to happen... day in, day out.... and stay responsible for what I can, all the time searching and searching through my mind for a way to get things balanced back up.
That's a little how I feel so I get it. I think there's a distinct difference between it and depression so I'm glad you said that part also. I'm not at all depressed, just mindful that the balance is weighted one way and that time moves on regardless. It will revert, I know that, but sometimes commitments have to be honoured and difficult things need to be done.
What keeps me going is realization of the fact that everything that is happening in my life currently is meant to happen. All the pile of work on my desk that needs to be cleared is what is meant to happen now, so I can have the future I have dreamt of.
I am sure things will not stay like this forever Sir. There shall come a time you will be free to wander.
When that time comes, then that will be the perfect time it is meant to happen.
That's an interesting way to look at it, not how Indeed things, but if it works for you then that's good enough.
Yes Sir 😆
Well, a lot of people changed because of this situation. After all, the world is changing and will even do much more after all this. I am afraid the tsunami wave is not even here. However, our plan is "stick to the thing we love". Sure, we love to travel more than anything, but then again there are other joyful things one can do and at the end still end up with some photography. The challenge is not there, especially if your passion is travel photography. But on the other hand, there is no need to travel far to get these traveling thrills. It's more about the financial situation...
I guess the financial aspect gets in the way, but for me that's not a problem, it's the commitments I have. I'll travel again though, it's a time thing.
As you described yourself, you will fulfill commitments in no time. Wish you all best
Am emotionally down since my daughter was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. I thought I was recovering but once in a while, I always find myself in a breakdown. Sometimes I wished there was a skip button in life that should I skip this part, but there was none.
I can't travel around the world not even outside our province. My life revolves around our small home and my work. There is no time to pause and a nice place to breathe in, with the additional problems I have recently, making me feel suffocating. What keeps me going is my family and the faith I have within me. I believe that everything has a season, and every season has its time. For me, happiness is a choice. Many times we have to choose and render ourselves a "Sacrificial Joy" ( to be happy despite all the bad things that happened) so that we can move forward.
Philippians 3:13
[13]Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.
Yeah, dealing with illness can be a little difficult. I'm diabetic so I understand the issues involved. Hopefully things work out.
Hopefully 🙏 sir.
We really do all have our own things, demons, skeletons, issues, etc. There's also never any one "right" way to deal with them - everyone is unique, and every situation is unique.
Personally, for me, I find that giving myself a wide variety of activities helps. I get bored easily, so if I can keep myself
amusedentertainedengaged with a variety of different things, I keep my mind going but, just as importantly, keep the negative feelings at bay. I try very hard not to let things beyond my control effect me. Beyond that, those that are within my realm to control, I remind myself that I made the decisions, and it's up to me to make the best of them.Case in point for variety: today I am making a lamp from an old camera, sorting 78rpm records, and repairing an old cylinder phonograph. Tomorrow I will be at the theatre with the cast preparing for opening night in two weeks. I will be writing during the evenings. What's nice is that, except for the theatre, all of these tasks are interruptible if any of my boys need or just want me.
Dude, I hope all works out for you soon. I'm pretty sure it will, even if it takes time. If you ever do want to ramble at someone, I'm here for a virtual beer.
Activities certainly help as they focus the mind, (occupy it also) and they often lead to happy feelings which sometimes snowballs. Your theatre, lamp making thing...that's exactly what I mean above...the feelings will linger.
I'm all good...I guess it's difficult for people to understand considering I'm not actually divulging the commitment that keeps me here and in place. Needless to say, it's something important enough to put my travels on hold and I don't begrudge the issues, just the feeling I have knowing my wings are clipped for now.
I appreciate you taking the time, to either use my TAG, or post in my Community. There are plenty of them to choose from. So...
Thank you!!
Cheers Wes, I wasn't sure this was appropriate for your community but decided to take a punt and accept a possible mute should it have not been suitable.
What drives me forward is definitely my family; having well-defined plans and outlined goals to achieve always helps me maintain focus and concentration and, if I may compliment myself once in a while, I am a person who has a lot of willpower.
You'll see that situations will change, I'm sure you'll return to travel more frequently and experience many other adventures... maybe now is just the time to wait and be patient.
A hug!
Goals with plans are critical for effective and sustainable results...one may trip over a reasonable result, but well laid and executed plans will always deliver better outcomes.
As always I fully agree ... and this thing as always makes me happy heh heh!
Not being able to do the things we wish to do can be very annoying and sometimes it frustrates you more when your mind and body are not blending into the present situation.
We all have one thing or the other which most time is a habit that doesn't work well with what we are committed to but putting things under control by containing your anger can help a lot.
It is good to keep good memories when doing the things we love doing so that in situations when your mind is taking you back there, you can just revisit that moment. I am certain about your love for exploration but some things come first for every human.
For you, that commitment is very important even though I don't know what it is. It is a matter of time because a time will come when nothing will restrain you and you will be able to travel as much as you.
What do you do to overcome the moments in life that might prevent your forward progression?
How you maintain a positive mindset and energy though?
I engage/interact with people who have common goals and people who believe in me (most especially my family). I share idea during discussion and learn from them as well.
I keep believing in myself and appreciate every little progress because it drives me to keep going.
That seems feasible.
A few days ago I told you: you are a restless being and you answered that you are not, but in this post you confirm it🤭.
I can relate a lot to your situation, I really have a lot to be grateful for but I don't feel totally comfortable where I am. With patience and discipline I hope to create for myself new opportunities and options.
I am not restless when it comes to work, to being committed to my tasks and responsibilities; I am focused and hard working, diligent and thorough. When it comes to travel..I am feeling restless to be doing it.
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