NOT MUCH HAS CHANGED OR HAS IT? #Bow "Has the pandemic changed your future plans?"

in Silver Bloggers29 days ago

In the beginning of the pandemic I was really frightened. This novel virus was spreading like wildfire and way too many people were dying. Without really knowing how it was spread, what precautions to take, it left us with so many questions, without any clear answers. The science needed time to catch up . So I kept myself hunkered down with my hubby at our farm in Upstate NY. As information and data started to emerge I followed the reports about the number of people infected, not only in the USA, but globally. It was mind boggling. How could this happen?

The first six months I basically stayed home . My four children and grand children were asked to stay away, the data at the time showed it was killing mostly older adults, which I am. To stay safe, I felt that was a wise decision since the vaccination was still in development.

It was a very long six months .

I have a tight knit family, we really enjoy each other's company and spend a lot of time together, usually. At first, I was content to talk on the phone or facetime with my family, but after awhile I could feel myself getting depressed, as I missed the hugs that we always shared. I really missed the little ones as I know how quickly they grow up. I yearned to see them again.

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I worried daily about the safety of all of them, but it was especially tough on my daughter and one son who are frontline health care workers. I checked on them often but surprisingly and thankfully their facilities were well stocked with PPE, personal protective equipment that I prayed would keep them from getting sick. They also were the first in my family to be tested regularly.

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A calculated risk.

Although the virus was still raging across the US, my depression began to get the better of me. I was having bouts of crying jags that left me feeling alone and isolated. Since my daughter and her future husband were being tested, I felt confident enough to have them visit. It was so strange at first, as they pulled into the driveway for our first visit after months, I could feel my tears welling up. So happy to see them, yet, still afraid that somehow this horrible disease would invade my space. So I put on a mask and went out to greet them.

Laughingly, my girl said to me:

"Mom, you don't need that mask, Mike and I were just tested, we are fine and so are you", my daughter reassured me. I burst into tears and hugged her fiercely, not wanting to let go.

My baby girl pulled me through.

That weekend changed my perspective. We talked about lots of good things but once the conversation turned to the pandemic I realized just how knowledgeable my daughter was about how to handle it. She helped me through my fears, reminding me just how fortunate I was to be a healthy senior. I was not obese, had no pre-existing conditions, took vitamins and had always had a healthy diet. Surely, even if I did contract the virus, I would survive.

It was then my whole approach to this pandemic changed. I was going to keep my circle small, allowing one family at a time to come and visit us. I already knew that where we lived, in the rural mountains of Upstate NY was the place to be. Plenty to keep us busy, with no need to go anywhere. With such a small population in our town, we could go for months without speaking to any neighbors. We kept it to just a wave, as they passed in cars or from across a field. The harvest from last season was still in abundance and the sap from our maple trees would soon run, giving us the pleasure of making syrup over an open fire, enjoying the crisp air and each other's company.

I also purchased a few books, one on the recommendation from my friend @lizelle, "Mindful Moments" "Living Your Best Life In Imperfect Times", by Eric Vance Walton. This book on meditation became part of my day .
Of course, Chicken Soup books were always within reach to give me a chuckle now and then. I started practicing yoga again also.
It all helped.

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Yes, I was getting out of my funk. Spring was around the corner and the numbers were dropping. The pandemic was still happening and I kept praying, but I no longer listened to daily reports.

Instead, I listened to my daughter's words that rolled through my mind.

"we are fine and so are you".

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Just be happy mom, love you.

As far as changing future plans? I have just ONE change, I am more mindful now that each day is a gift.
Lose the fear and enjoy life.

Be happy, don't worry.
Jackie O Silver

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 28 days ago  

As far as changing future plans? I have just ONE change, I am more mindful now that each day is a gift.
Lose the fear and enjoy life.

So very true, that's how I also live nowadays, and I'm so glad @ericvancewalton's books helped you.
I felt exactly like you, once the realization hit that this virus was deadly, I was terrified!
Eric's books have been invaluable tools for me as well.
Lovely #bow.

Thank you again for sharing my work @lizelle! It always makes my day when I hear it's helped someone.

 28 days ago  

Good day my friend. I can't tell you how much just the act of sitting and reading Eric's book help me through some sad days. I hadn't even realized how uptight I was until I starting on my meditation journey.
With my daughter getting married in just 12 days, I am so thankful that a) we are actually going to be able to have the big wedding and b) we are vaccinated.

She is my only daughter, the youngest in my brood, so this will be quite a celebration.
Hope you continue to stay well, both physically and mentally because for me, both are so important. Thanks again for recommending the books, life savers.

Hugs!!

 27 days ago  

Hi @lizelle, good day.
I am so over this virus bs, I have a whole new perspective now and for sure Eric's book has helped me through the worst of it, thank goodness. I try to stay focused on the positive. I have a lot to be thankful for and at my age time is the most important commodity. I refuse to waste it.
Enjoy your day!

 28 days ago  

What a sad and yet wonderful story. I suppose you know that we are still in the struggle here in South Africa, but thankfully we are an enduring people.
The main object that we face is that everyone is suspicious of everyone and anxieties have shot through the roof.

You do indeed have a great family and yes, with no hang-ups like co-morbidities, you stand a greater chance than many others.
Each day is indeed a gift in our short journey on this planet and we are glad that your spirits were lifted by your girl.
Up and at em is my way of life.

Blessings and some !LUV for you.

 28 days ago  

There is no doubt in my mind that I am one of the lucky ones. So many around the world are suffering, it breaks my heart, especially seeing children orphaned by war or disease. Life is not fair.

I know it's tough in South Africa, I can only imagine what you witness first hand. I pray for you and think of you often, may life be good to you.

Peace be with you. Thanks for your nice reply.

 27 days ago  

We have the Lord's hand in all that we do Lady Robin, as I am sure that you guys also do and as you know all glory goes to him, as we are mere empty vessels.

I for instance have all of the co-morbidities on their list of extra vulnerables to the Covid virus and yet it did not touch me during the 19 months of lockdowns thus far. We however have to be responsible, as we work with many people and I dread having the disease and passing it on to others, so we both had the Pfizer vaccinations.

Thank you for the care and especially for the prayers, as it makes things easier for us.

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Thank you for your sincerity! This pandemic took an emotional toll on everyone, it's good to be human again, interact with the ones we love, that's not much to ask isn't it?

She helped me through my fears, reminding me just how fortunate I was to be a healthy senior.

She is very right, you guys are fine, trust me! Lots of people should actually follow your footsteps, in term of lifestyle. (Especially now that you cut wood too hahaha.)

Cheers! 😉

 25 days ago  

Yes, I am getting quite good with the chainsaw 😁😁
My daughter is amazing, just so smart and kind. She is getting married in 10 days, it's going to be a wonderful celebration. I can't wait to see friends and family that I have not seen in quite awhile .
I hope my heart holds out, I plan on dancing A-LOT.

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you have recovered from potato madness. hehe

Congrats on her weeding!! Happy days!

 25 days ago  

OHHH, thanks Ed!
Our little girl, all grown up. Happy days for sure! We just love her Mike, he comes from a wonderful family also. We are blessed.

Hugs!

I think we all learnt the same thing about this pandemic- the "Present" is a "Present", enjoy each day as it comes ❤️

 28 days ago  

Oh I like that...the "Present" is a "Present", wise words @sylviaijay.
Hope you don't mind if I spread that around 😄

It brings me joy to learn that my little book helped you @farm-mom. The act of writing it helped me get through some very dark days last year. If you email me (ericvancewalton@gmail.com) with your address I'll send you an autographed copy of my latest book. Take care of yourself!

 28 days ago  

Thanks for spreading the love. While reading your book I did write in the blank pages quite a bit. I find writing with pen and paper relaxes me. I also enjoy going back to read what I wrote a month ago or even a day later, gives me a chance to process and appreciate improvement.

Thanks for your kind offer to send me your book, I will send my e-mail soon.
Have a great day!

You're welcome! I integrated the journal pages for my first meditation book, The Perfect Pause, and got enough positive feedback from readers that I thought I'd do the same with Mindful Moments. It kind of makes the reader's copy a little more personal to them, I think, and something to reflect on (as you said). I hope you and the family have a great week!

 26 days ago  

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What a beautifully articulated story!

Caution can exist without fear and worry. Happiness happens easier that way too.

 28 days ago  

Good morning kind sir, thanks for your feedback. I am in such a better place now than I was a year ago. But I will admit I have always been a worrier, it's just who I am I guess. Having my family's support means the world to me and my daughter has become my best friend now that she's a woman. I look to her often for advise, she is my shinning star. She is getting married in 12 days, so exciting, I can't wait.

Hope life is treating you well.

Oh congrats!

Mine are years from that stage but it warms my heart to hear tales of love and resilience. The has a great example of what a strong permanent relationship is which doesn't happen all the time.

Life is always awesome.

Ah,this ended up being balm for my soul. This has been such an awful time and we, too, are grateful that we live in a village in the country. We don't have family, but we have friends who are family and we're feeling not being able to have the gatherings we used to. I am so glad you've found a path and now enjoy time with your precious ones.

 28 days ago  

Good day @fionasfavourites, thanks for your kind words. It's been a tough year for all of us. Some suffered way more than myself, so I am grateful, feeling blessed. It's great to hear that you live in the country, best place to be now in my book. At least you can enjoy nature, observing the wonders of our natural world. Keeps me humble and happy. Isn't it wonderful to find friends that become family, that's a rich life as far as I am concerned.

Have a peaceful day my friend.

Indeed it is/they are - both the country and the friends. I am grateful.

Happy day to you.

When the virus first started in China, we were a little afraid. However, even before it reached Ecuador, me and my family were not afraid of it what so ever. We heard stories that indicated that the death counts were being altered to scare people. We heard a person who was on a cruise ship when it was hit by the virus say that this was all a joke. She said she got it and felt a little bad for a few hours and that was all!!! I don't remember the name of the ship, but I do know it was off the coast of Japan and made headline news in the States saying how terrible it was aboard the ship!!! What a lie!

 28 days ago  

Hearing and knowing are two different perspectives. There is a thin line when it comes to fact and fiction. Unless you were actually on that ship, it's hard to say for sure. I think history will repeat itself if we don't learn the lessons of the past. I don't think anyone on this planet can say this virus is NOT real, but we all have our own way of dealing with the pandemic and it's impact on our lives.

If you are young and healthy, it may only be a blip, thank goodness, but there is no denying, many have suffered and died.

That's no lie.

Thanks for your feedback, enjoy the conversation.
Be well, stay happy.